Friday, 19 June 2015

“It’s part of our giving back to the community” (On Generosity)

I’ve just spent a day with professional IT gurus from IBM on a course titled “How to develop a Technology Plan”.


I’m buzzing having been blitzed with their theory, ideas and words that I didn’t even know existed and techniques that I thought were only for the big organisations and the super nerdy. How wrong I was about these lovely guys & gals... and how thankful I am for gaining a brief exchange of their wisdom.


I was reminded in a great way of the subtle yet superior craft of 'keep it simple'. This is how to formulate your plan.


The IBM UK Citizenship team, facilitated by Jeremy, taught us a few of the steps they follow to plan with simplicity and then to enhance your capacity as a small charity through technology by understanding who you are and what you are trying to do. The hard part, by far, being the introspective aspects.


A lot of what we were taught is actually just common sense. I know most of these principles. I still hear words of Socrates echo "know thyself" ring out from my days as a student, and even more so in a charitable organisation where our identity is our most important thing but getting down to do such things like this is not so simple.


It’s certainly not so when you’re a teeny tiny charity.


A day of planning can easily be hijacked by the printer that has just gone on fatal error vacation or when the milk runs out. Or when one of your volunteers ring in sick meaning an entire team reshuffle and there goes your entire week. The list goes on.


All the people, save for the IBM army, in this room are from small charities and most described themselves in the introduction as managers, directors and other auspicious type titles that connote sage like leaders that are inspiring, imparting and firmly directly their band of volunteers. Yet each, over the course of the day, described how far from managing they feel. "Manager" in fact may have seemed a pompous title that is more aptly described as “General Dog’s Body” whose day job is simply keeping the whole thing, barely at best in some cases, ticking along. Anything to do with thinking about common sense guidance principles and strategy is not so simple. It’s a luxury.


Small yes but resourceful oh my. These gals & guys are as I shared and learned are used to being under resourced, over ambitious and way over stretched as an modus operandi.


It was a great mix of sectors in the room today. I am glad to be part of this session together with small charities and a big company.


At some point I ask myself why would a big company deal with the lowly groups like ourselves. Who thought of it and why were they motivated about being helpful to others. What was their empathy story. I didn’t find out on the day, but I did hear one of the IBM volunteer, who was at lunch with us say “it’s part of our giving back to the community”.


There is was. Ah ha. Generosity. The practice of giving.


Generosity, in full blown action, I believe starts with the empathy.


At some point someone somewhere in this company must have thought about others who are in the sole operation exists to help others. They considered the powerful side of empathy, “what if it was me”. What if it was us who were starting up, who were overstretched, who were under resourced scraping by with little donated time by others and desperately reaching out with their all to get to those incredibly hard to reach people that it seems everyone else has forgotten. How would we feel in their place and what would we want a big company to do to help us out.


They then must have reasoned that “it is better for us to share than to safeguard what we have for the greater good”.


Generosity is more than just a good idea... it’s powerful one, it’s a strategic one, it’s an effective one… and when generosity grows it’s ‘wings’ through becoming a practice it ‘flies’... soaring across our communities, criss-crossing and connecting us much, much better together just like today in this session.


It's nice to have a community "Big Brother" to help their little siblings out. Thank you IBM for allowing my charity, Empathy Action to be part of your generosity.


For more information on IBM’s Responsible Citizenship or the Small Charities Coalition events for small charities click on the embedded links.

June 15th-20th, 2015 week also marks Small Charity Week #smallcharityweek



Friday, 10 April 2015

Thank you Elizabeth Ward: A Tribute


I recently read a tweet, as it happened a final one, that read:

A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory.

Today I look back and remember Elizabeth Ward, a lady who has been an encourager, helper and one who opened her doors to serve others.

Whilst this Easter weekend was a great time of reflection that not even death can hold a good person down it also delivered the news that Elizabeth had herself breathed her last. She had been battling a crippling case of cancer that suddenly took hold of her in the autumn of last year.

Up until 18 months ago all Elizabeth to me was some parent to some of the kids from a youth group that I served in and I vaguely knew that she helped with the international students around our town.

I didn’t know that she lost her husband to cancer several years ago. That she was quirky, forthright with her thoughts and extremely loving.

I also didn’t know that she was willing to help out with other’s needs.  Especially in that hour, or hours, that comes to us all where we desperately need one another. Our need was for the charity that I worked for, operating with next to no resources, needed to pull off a minor miracle in the production of paper bags for a client. The client was a prestigious car company but the makers of the bags, the ones who we were really trying to help were from a small charity looking to help educate and opportunity for street children in New Delhi.

Elizabeth and others came to stick, glue, tie labels and carefully prepare these bags. Each done individually. All 4000 of them. Oh the monotony of it. 2 weeks with a small band of volunteers we persevered together.

After Elizabeth attended one of our simulations where we recreated, somewhat poetically, an activity that is based on making paper bags.

Then some months later a chance encounter allowed me to share a waiting space with her and she was highly animated around the persecution, in particular of Christians in Northern Iraq. Proclaiming to write to politicians, to leaders, to others in order to see how she could serve and in particular to open her house to help others.

I did not, personally, know any refugees. Earlier in the year we had helped with galvanising support for Syria and seen the UK welcome a number of displaced people. I also knew many groups operating in the area who were all highlighting the human tragedy of displacement but none the movement of people to here. However, I did happen to know a girl, from Kazakhstan, who was on a life journey to return to where her origins were, in North Korea, and her heart to serve. Her recourse was leading her to both work with us whilst undertaking a doctorate so she could become a teacher for others about the values of empathy, “one another-ness” and serving. She was only supported by a small group of friends. Elizabeth thought hard and said yes she’d love to help and offer a home to help her along.

It was here that I got to know the kind hearted woman who willingly opened up her doors to a stranger, who helped someone get to where they were going, who stopped to listen to the needs of another and sought to do something with what she had. At one time in my family’s history others too opened up their doors to us strangers after being unwillingly removed from our home country and into a strange one and allowed us the time to find our feet.

I’m grateful for sharing in this small part of her life and to walk albeit briefly with the saints in this world. Thank you Elizabeth. I will remember what you have done for the least of these.

Tuesday, 7 April 2015

Nearly nine decades apart

Lucy "Dadi" is 88 and Ezra just 45 days old. 

It's Easter Day today and seeing 'life' being celebrated today through the reason for the season but also through these two special people meeting- it's a collision of a 'full life' and a 'new life'. 

A very humble union between Ezra and his Great grand aunty.

Friday, 13 March 2015

Tuesday, 10 March 2015

First Contact: brothers

By far among my favourite moments of my life have been the times when my children first met.

We captured it with Caleb to Joshie here

And then with Caleb and Joshie with Reuben (watch out for Joshie walking into some of the gadgets on wheels in the Special Care ward!) here.

Now with Ezra and his three big brothers.

Uber grateful for such moments. 

:)

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

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Ezra has arrived at 1637.

Saw it all. Experienced it all. Full of awe. Full of love and so proud.

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A nice text from my friend

I recommend Ed or Edwina as a name! 😊
Still praying x

Saying goodbye to the delivery room 2 and onto the pool.


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Pushing stage- showing signs.

The ouchy stage as sue says 

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She's just explained the purpose of the amniotic hook to me.

Then she's used it.  

Yup the waters have gone!

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Not quite what we wanted to hear: I've done an examination and you're 5cm and possibly 6 at a stretch right now.

She should be fully dilated.

Our heads hang low. We know it's going to be a marathon.

On the plus side- a pool has become available.

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A debate on the waters going on

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Contraction 50

Discussing and evaluating the recent show.

I passed on changing the pads for the more experienced midwives.

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She's tiring. 

And uncomfortable.

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Been on a lunch run.

Had a quick look at the contractions count: at least 45 since around 0900 this morning.